Question
I am thinking of getting a khula from my husband . I want to know what I should do in this situation. I have known my husband for 7 months . I e have been married for 2 months . We have kids from previous marriage and we all live together . My husband and I have intimacy problems . We donโt come close to each other. I have tried to talk to my husband about this but he doesnโt really want to discuss it or shows interest in what I find important. Even we we got married it took him 4 days to even give me hug. My husband have started to go online, looking for a secound wife. I have talk to him about this and we had a fight. I told him is early. That we just got married and we have to learn each other. He doesnโt agree and we had a big fight . Since then he doesnโt talk to me. He ignores me and if he says something he says he doesnโt want to talk to me. He comes home from work and completely ignores me. I take care of his kids . Cooks for him and makes sure he is okay but he doesnโt want to even look at me .
Islamic Ruling & Answer
VerifiedConsidering your situation, this is not just a small marital issue. It is about the basic parts of a marriageโlove, kindness, emotional connection, and communication. In Islam, the purpose of marriage is peace, love, and mercy. When these things are missing, a person is not forced to stay in such a relationship.
First, you should make one sincere and serious effort to fix the situation. Talk to your husband calmly and clearly. If possible, involve a wise elder, a responsible family member, or a qualified scholar to help resolve the matter. Explain your concerns openly, especially his ignoring behavior, lack of communication, absence of intimacy, and his quick decision about a second marriage.
If even after this, your husband is not willing to change and does not fulfill your marital rights, then his behavior is not correct in Islam. A wife has the right to good treatment, attention, and marital relations. Ignoring these rights continuously is (injustice).
In such a case, when there is no hope of improvement and you are facing emotional and mental distress, you are allowed to seek khula (separation). You can ask your husband for khula with mutual agreement, and if he refuses, you can approach a Darul Ifta, a Shariah council, or a court to get it.
In short, if your husband is not willing to improve the relationship, not fulfilling your basic rights, and not even trying to communicate, then taking khula is permissibleโand in some cases, it may be the better option.
Answered by
Mufti Tosif Qasmi
March 30, 2026