Non-Muslim Best Friend Guidance and Boundaries
Question
If a sister had a best friend who was non Muslim and now knows that you can't make a non Muslim your best friend and wants to lower their level their friendship . 2) can she make dua for her protection , guidance . Excessively. 3) keep passwords as her birth date . 4)give gifts to her . (If not , can she give gifts to all her friends and also her ) 5) keep the letters they sent each other from the past , or letters she wrote to her , about how she misses her and how she loves their friendship when they had fights , but never sent . 6)keep the friendship bracelet her friend gived her in past but doens't wear them , just keeps it collected in a box . 6) imagine scenerios , where her friend is a Muslim and they both go to masjid and travel around the world . 7) hug only her friend whenever she sees her , what if she is filled with tenderness whenever she hugs her , should she stop or if she does this to all her friends , would it be fine? 8) making special reservations for her without her knowing . Ex : if she is given opportunity to manage seating for a function in school , and chooses for her friend, a seating she thinks she would like . 9) should she change her seating , if they sit together , but everyone has their groups, so none of them would agree to change . 10) sent only her memes . 11) if she thinks her friend's mental health would be affected and decides to wait for a bit until she is alright and can move on .
Islamic Ruling & Answer
VerifiedIn Islam, it is allowed to treat a non-Muslim with kindness, goodwill, and fairness. Making dua for her guidance and protection, giving normal gifts, wishing good for her, or caring about her comfort is permissible — as long as it does not harm your faith or create a bond that affects your Islamic identity.
However, a “very close, heart-attached friendship” — where you give her special preference, make her your only special person, become emotionally dependent on her, or imagine scenarios that deeply attach your heart to her should be reduced gradually. Love and deep closeness should mainly be centered around believers.
Keeping old letters or items is not sinful in itself if they do not create temptation or stir strong emotions. But if they increase emotional attachment, it is safer to let them go.
Answered by
Mufti Tosif Qasmi
March 02, 2026
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