Question
So a guy and me were best friends.in 2024 I told him distance since I was gonna get married to someone else so he blocked me. I was really depressed and I prayed istikhara the sign was the guy I was supposed to get married to left the country so my parents said they don’t want me to get married to him anymore and my best friend unblocked me . Then in 2025 Novembe my best friend said he doesn’t know what his future hold and it would be better for us to leave for the sake of Allah. He said praying for me is his personal life so he didn’t tell me if he would pray for me or not instead he kept saying it’s his personal life and if I want to pray for him than I should. I talked to my friends about it and they were like it’s good he left me for the sake of Allah and they think he hasn’t lost feelings for me. And we should wait since we are only 19. Now today a friend randomly called me after 3 months and said he’s a red flag according to what he texted me although she said that she is still praying for the guy that she likes even tho our situation is almost the same and I should pray istikhara again.and if I should how do I know the answers for my istikhara. How do I know if he’s good for me or bad for me
Islamic Ruling & Answer
VerifiedIstikhara does not mean that you must receive a specific dream or a clear “signal.” Rather, its real purpose is to seek goodness from Allah, and then guidance is understood through circumstances, inner peace of the heart, and whether matters become easy or face obstacles.
In your situation, if the boy is repeatedly uncertain, unclear about his future, and is himself ending the relationship, then this is a practical form of guidance (a sign) that, at this time, this relationship may not be suitable for you.
If you perform Istikhara again, then observe the following:
Do you feel peace and contentment in your heart, or do you still feel uneasy?
Do things move forward an easy way or do obstacles keep appearing?
Is the other person serious and clear now, or still confused?
Remember, a relationship that is good for you from Allah usually comes with clarity, seriousness, and ease; whereas one that repeatedly involves confusion, distance, and uncertainty is better to avoid.
Therefore, for now, it is better to be cautious regarding this person, and continue to pray that Allah makes the best decision easy for you.
Answered by
Mufti Tosif Qasmi
March 18, 2026
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