Fasting During Marital Stress and Mental Hardship
Question
Asalamualikum, I want some advice on fasting, this month i have been keeping my fast up until 3 days ago, me and my husband had a very big argument where it lead to him hitting me infront of my 3 year old daughter who started screaming and crying when she seen it happen, we was both fasting. The day after i didnt keep a fast because of how mentally drained i was from what took place, my head was and still is a mess i have been through thinking on how i can leave searching for houses where my daughter can grow in peace and not see this toxicity but its hard i dont work i dont have anywhere else to go and i dont want to put my daughter through going into housing accommodation and b&bs. i suffer from depression and anxiety OCD and i am somewhat bipolar, i am not taking medication for this as it makes me feel worse, i feel like fasting is becoming very challenging im taking care of everything around the house and also my 3 year old daughter, when i have been fasting im lashing out on my daughter as in getting very frustrated with her shouting at her and loosing my patience, i sit after she is asleep and regret the way i have been im ashamed of myself but i have no support my husband is out working and im alone with her and its really getting on top of me, the day of our argument he had a day off and from the morning he was being off with me and later that day it led to that, also there is no peace in this home ramadan does not feel like ramadan this year i feel so alone, im praying alone opening my fast alone my husband is hardly here, please give me some advice on this situation is it bad im not fasting please get back to me jazakallah.
Islamic Ruling & Answer
VerifiedWalekumussalam,
You have described a situation that is truly very painful. Arguments at home and a husband hitting his wife are wrong and very unfortunate, especially when it happens in front of a small child. Situations like this can make a person mentally very disturbed, so your stress and tiredness are understandable.
Regarding fasting, remember that fasting in Ramadan is obligatory for every adult Muslim. Therefore, it should not be left without a valid reason. Family problems, arguments, or mental stress are very difficult, but normally they are not considered a reason to leave the fast. So it is better that you continue to fast and try to be patient, because fasting itself teaches patience and Allah gives special help to those who fast.
If you feel weak or angry at times, try to stay quiet for a while, make wudu (ablution), or remember Allah. This can bring peace to your heart and help you control your emotions. Try to treat your daughter with gentleness, because children are strongly affected by the environment at home.
Finally, a word of comfort for you: Allah knows the condition of His servants very well. Your loneliness, your pain, and the feelings in your heart are not hidden from Allah. A woman who continues to worship Allah even in difficult situationsโAllah never wastes her patience.
Keep praying to Allah to bring peace and love into your home and to open ways of ease for you and your daughter. Have faith that Allah rewards every act of patience in the best way.
May Allah give peace to your heart and improve your situation. Ameen.
Answered by
Mufti Tosif Qasmi
March 06, 2026
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